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Wedding Wednesday: Say Yes

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Who among us does not watch Say Yes to the Dress?  (Men reading: sorry, I know you don’t.)  There’s a lot of hoopla around the whole experience of trying on wedding dresses and finding the one.  We’ve seen the episodes where the girl just doesn’t feel it; she doesn’t cry tears of joy, she doesn’t find her dress.  This, I think, is the fear.  With this garment so built up, can we achieve that perfect bridal moment?

I did, and I’m here to share my experience & some advice on saying yes to the dress!  While I know my experience is just one person’s, I asked my friends to weigh in too to give a little more of a balanced view.

It only took me one shopping trip to find my dress.  Is this weird?  My two married friends also only took one shopping trip each.  My friend Stacie picked a shop specifically because it was on the smaller side and she didn’t want to be overwhelmed with her options… and trust me, you can be!

I tried on about 20 dresses.  Thinking back now, they’re all a blur of lace and pouf in my mind.  I can only remember the first one I put on– my favorite from the photos I brought with me and the first wedding dress I ever wore– and the one I bought!  My cousin Amanda thinks she tried on nearly 50 dresses over her three shopping trips and ended up with something very different than what she thought she wanted.

So how do you know when it’s the one?  For myself and Amanda, we had to put on another dress after the one to confirm it.  I slipped into the first dress I put on again, the one that nothing else was comparing to, and found that I didn’t really like it after all.  Once the previous dress was back on, my mom started saying “that’s it!” and the tears came… from both of us!

For my friend Megan, the reaction of the crowd was very important to her decision; we see this in Say Yes all the time too. She said the fact that everyone else loved it made her love it too.  Stacie said she couldn’t stop smiling in her pick and then just stopped looking.  After 5 dresses, she was done.  Though she’s sure there are a lot of dresses out there that would’ve worked for her, she didn’t want to look any more once she found one that worked.

So, how can you say yes to the dress?

Do your homework.  I know you have a secret wedding board on your Pinterest.  Now is the time to look at pictures and see what you like and what you don’t like!  You should have some ideas and photos for when you shop!

Take it from dream to reality.  If you have no idea where to start, look for bridal shops in the area.  Ask friends where they got their dresses or do a google search.  Once you’ve picked a shop, you can see which designers they carry and take your time browsing those designers’ sites.

Determine your budget.  I think for most people this is the first step.  Again, with a designer in mind, I was able to confirm the price point I was looking for made sense.  A designer’s website will have ranges for each of their collections.

Stay open-minded.  It is a delicate balancing act to stay firm to what you want and open to the possibilities.  You should try what your mom/MOH/friend picks at least once.  Things look very different on you than on the hanger or the model in photos!  (I happen to think I look way better in my dress than the model in the photo…)  Don’t marry yourself to a style (Amanda ended up in something completely different) or a designer (I went for a Maggie Sottero trunk show and didn’t buy a Maggie Sottero) either.

Don’t let anyone else control the appointment.  The consultant is trying to make a sale.  She will try to push you to make a decision.  It’s okay to walk away… I almost did until the very last dress ignited a spark!  As for your entourage, if you watch Say Yes I don’t have to warn you about this– it is ultimately your decision.

OotD: Sweet Stripes

Wedding Wear

Hope everyone had a wonderful Memorial Day weekend!  This is different than the usual, but I wanted to share an outfit post from the beautiful wedding I attended this weekend.  It was such a great time and will be a cherished memory; so here’s what I wore!

Dress: Guess | Shoes: Nine West | Jewelry: Tiffany’s (necklace, bracelets, pearls); David Yurman (topaz ring), mixed-metal earrings from Santa Teresa di Riva, Sicily | Lips: Too Faced “I Want Candy” | Nails: Essie “Neowhimsical”

Friday Favorites: Bad TV

It’s no secret that I watch a lot of really bad TV.  When you live alone, TV provides a pretty essential background of dialogue to remind you that there are other people on this planet.  I always have something playing; reality TV that you can completely tune out is perfect for background noise.  I keep it on while I play 3DS, while I write, while I browse online, and while I cook.  (But never while I’m reading; books deserve my full attention.)

I thought I’d take inventory of some of these horrible, guilty pleasure shows, and share them with you here.

Four Weddings

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I make every effort in life not to be a super girly girl, (simply because I’m not one!) but I do have a small fraction of my being that is a girl stereotype.  That part of me is the part that loves Four Weddings.  I’m such a sucker for weddings.  While the dress is probably my favorite part, I prefer Four Weddings to Say Yes to the Dress.  This show lets you see the full picture of four weddings in each episode, and thus gives you insight into all the other fun details of the day.  A friend of my friends was in an episode and I was dying to see that… so I purchased the season on Amazing Instant Video.  This is a great show to leave on as you go about your evening and you might find yourself planning your wedding while you do.

 

Toddlers and Tiaras

IMG_0469This is a car crash of a show: you simply can’t look away.  Complete with absolutely insane parents and ridiculously spoiled children, this show has a plethora of cringe-worthy moments.  Yet, there’s something about Toddlers and Tiaras I love.  I think it’s the poise of these well-polished girls, dressed eerily to look four times their age.  I’m not a parent, and I’d never make my kids do pageants if I were, but if for some reason my kids wanted to, I would go glitz.  Fake hair, fake teeth, tons of make-up: all par for the course.  The tanning I have a problem with, not because little kids shouldn’t be tanned (well, maybe.  But they also shouldn’t look 25.) but because I’m pale.  What’s wrong with being pale?  I’m not defending pageants at all.  I am not a fan.  However, I think a good contestant has a certain control over their movement that any dancer would envy.  I’m impressed and entertained by that full package.

 

Super Nanny

IMG_0475One summer, my brother was interning in the city so he took up residence in my living room.  This wasn’t so bad for me; I simply had to move my no-pants-TV-time from the couch to my bedroom.  I fall asleep to TV, and reality TV you don’t care about is the perfect thing to keep on as you drift away.  Unfortunately for Joey, this was the summer that I was obsessed with Nanny 911 on Netflix.  Sounds of screaming kids wafted through the walls while I snoozed and he begged for silence to sleep.  I don’t know why I started watching Nanny 911.  Maybe I had eaten through everything interesting on Netflix.  After finishing that series, I moved on to Super Nanny, which is sadly the reason I started my Hulu Plus subscription.  Revisiting both, I think I like Super Nanny better.  It’s less gimmicky than Nanny 911, but either will do.  Just keep the volume down low if you’re planning on sleeping through the screams!

 

I guess I’m not feeling too guilty about watching these shows… one of these or a similar show plus the TV’s sleep timer is essential to my nightly routine!

What are you guilty pleasure shows?